Happy Guys Turn Leave Women Cold

The University of British Columbia (that is in the great white north), did a study of just over 1000 people divided evenly between men and women of all ages, and found some rather surprising results. (American Psychological Association Journal "Emotion")
http://psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/2011-10737-001/

The study had the people view pictures of the opposite sex where the pictures showed people displaying demeanor's of shame, happiness, pride or a more neutral expression. The participants were asked to rate their attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 9.

All women tended to prefer proud, successful looking men, and younger women also rated shameful and brooding men very highly. For some reason, all age groups were not that attracted to pictures of men who were happy.

Likely women are attracted to successful looking guys because of the security that they represent. With the nurturing nature of most women there is a natural tendency to look for a good provider to hook up with. Bad Boys, on the other hand, with their brooding expressions likely attract females because they think that they can fix them and make them wholesome and happy (hmm -- at which point they would likely have to dump them because women are not that attracted to happy guys – then the guy would be unhappy and brooding again, so some other woman can take a turn at bat).

Bringing this back to our cave man days, a man that was a good provider was a good hunter and had a lot of skins around to keep him warm, thus showing his success. A bad ass dude would be able to take the riches from a good hunter, and thus could also provide. Ideally a good hunter who could kick the ass of any bad dude who tried to rob him would be doubly desirable.

Men on the other hand find happiness and laughter in women the most attractive trait, while pride is a turn off. The happiness makes sense, because most guys put up with crap on the job all day and just do not want to face it at night as well.

Women with a shameful expression were also somewhat attractive to men. The shame thing might just be a hint that you have a bit of bad girl in you so they are curious to see just how bad you are.

Using our cave man analogy again, what cave man in his right mind would want to come home from a hard day hunting animals and find that the wife had already cooked a meal from a rabbit she killed with a stone and roots she had already dug up – makes him look second rate after all.

So what can we derive from this study:

1) For Guys, you need to be a successful looking hard-ass dude with glitter and attitude.
2) For Women, you want to be seen as happy go lucky, never complain, and never put your man down.

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